Kirsten Is Recovering – Friday, August 31, 2012


Soni and I rode a pedicab to dinner

Kirsten was moved to R3, a surgical floor. Her nurse and CNA are very attentive, compassionate, and competent. That makes such a big difference.

Kirsten looks like a gunshot victim. She has a half dozen small incisions scattered across her left abdomen, and several more on the right. They are glued closed. She also has a bandage across her right abdomen. No idea what’s under it.

The neurologist came in and talked about her episodes of delirium. He ordered a twenty-four hour electroencephalogram (EEG) for tomorrow. I’m increasingly skeptical that Kirsten’s episodes are seizure-related, and that she ever suffered a seizure. I think it has more to do with a faulty stress response. Sort of like a fainting goat.

Kirsten’s nurse friend, Barb, brought cookies to the room. They look delicious. Hopefully Kirsten will be off NPO orders tomorrow and can enjoy them.

My former coworkers at Outside Television sent a nice bouquet of flowers, which is very sweet.

I had a wonderful lunch with my good friend Adam Burk at The Farmer’s Table in the Old Port. Adam is so passionate and caring and good. His friendship and generosity touch me very deeply. I am a very lucky guy.

Our neighbors took the girls to New Hampshire for the night. They will kayak and ride horses. They were very excited when they left. Skye called me when she arrived at the cottage on a pond to tell me how wonderful it all was. Mark and Cindy love our girls and have been wanting them to visit their cottage all summer. I’m glad they were able to finally go, even if it was without me and Kirsten.

Since we didn’t have the girls, I decided to spent some quality time with Kirsten’s mother, Soni, who has been visiting us since Kirsten fractured her neck. I’ve never spent time with her alone, and was looking forward to it. We parked at my new garage at the ferry terminal and rode a pedicab to Eve’s at the Garden at the Portland Harbor Hotel. We had delicious food and good conversation. It was absolutely wonderful.

Maggie visited Kirsten for another spa treatment. I haven’t spoken to Kirsten about it, but I’m sure it was delightful, as usual. Maggie is simply angelic, and I love her.


I just took the girls up to see Kirsten. She’s still in the PACU, where she will remain until they get her onto R3, a surgical floor, later this afternoon. Soni went in with Skye for a few minutes. Then Jenna and I switched with them. Finally, the nice woman running the waiting room brought Hayley in to replace Jenna. Ordinarily, I was repeatedly told, children aren’t allowed in the PACU. I assured them that my girls are quiet and respectful, so they made an exception.

Kirsten looks great. She’s complaining of pain in the area near her incisions, but is generally alert and smiling. She enjoyed seeing us, and we her.

As long as the liver tumors are benign, the worse of Kirsten’s health problems seem to be behind us. I am SO incredibly relieved and looking forward to better days.

The kind woman who was Kirsten’s roommate on R6, Deborah, and I have been exchanging emails with each other. She is incredibly sweet. I would love to visit her today, but she’s going home. Through this experience I have made new friends and strengthened relationships with many casual and dear friends. Those relationships, and my deep and abiding love for Kirsten, have buoyed me in the very bleakest times. I had the most heart-wrenching, challenging, frustrating week of my life. I was faced at one point with the very real decision about whether or not to continue medical interventions.

I thank you for giving me the requisite strength to endure. I thank the men and women of science, and those who cared for Kirsten directly, for saving her life.

20 Replies to “Kirsten Is Recovering – Friday, August 31, 2012”

  1. Very well written post. Thinking positive thoughts that the tumors are benign, and each day she gets stronger.

  2. Jessica Somers says: Reply

    I am so happy that it seems you are all through the hardest times. You have done an amazing job advocating and taking care of Kirsten.

    1. Thank you, Jessica. I couldn’t have done anything else. Kirsten’s my girl. 🙂

  3. Tanya Safsten says: Reply

    I am very excited to know things are going so well! My love to all of you.

    (Does this kind of recovery happen once in a blue moon? :))

    1. I was trying to figure out a way to use that, but you get to be the one. I’m glad we timed the hospital visit just right, so it would coincide with the blue moon. 😉

  4. Kris Lethin says: Reply

    I’m retiring the rabbit foot. I think its all used up like a new golf club that only has so many good drives in it. Love you guys. Hope for a series of boringly stable posts as healing sets in and Kirsten starts putting some weight back on.

    1. Very very boring, coming up. 🙂 You’ve been tremendous through all this, Kris. Several people have commented privately to me how much they have appreciated your comments on this blog. Thank you.

  5. To Kirsten:
    I’m so glad to read that you are on the mend.
    Haven’t met you yet, but I look forward to doing so.
    You have a great husband.

    1. We should all have dinner together when this is over. I’d like that.

  6. I love the title of this post!

    1. I hoped somebody would notice. 😉

  7. In my heart I have been with you and Kirsten two weeks ago today.
    Finally, I can take that deep breath and begin to relax.
    I hope it is the same for the two of you.
    Much virtual love…

    1. Your words of support and encouragement have meant a great deal to me. Thank you.

  8. this is the best thing I have read all week. Heck, in the last month!

    I am sure there will be more challenges, but I am also sure that you will be there to force the system into providing a higher level of care.

    Kirsten is very lucky to have a best friend like you.

  9. Hurray!!!!

  10. Brent, we are so happy to hear about this encouraging direction. Every day, my wife asks what I know about Kirsten. I’m thrilled to share your good news today. Our best to you all.

    1. Thank you so much. She is definitely recovering, and quickly.

  11. Only able to catch up with this post now but it’s made my day! Here’s to uneventful and relaxed times ahead. I can’t wait for the day that Kirsten is discharged!

    “I had the most heart-wrenching, challenging, frustrating week of my life. I was faced at one point with the very real decision about whether or not to continue medical interventions.”

    *GULP* 🙁
    I am not one to hand out compliments because I am allergic to all things phony, but reading your blog and wringing my hands with worry for Kirsten and you lately, I want to tell you that I am in awe of the strength, love and courage you have displayed in this impossibly stressful situation. That, to me, says so much about a person. I have so much admiration for you both. Hugs.

    1. That’s very nice to read, Kerry. I’m very much looking forward to spending time with you, discussing this and so many other things.

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